A Taste of Therapy
Read the exercises below when you can stop and reflect on them.
IF A MIRACLE HAPPENED …
If a miracle happened while you slept that solved the biggest problem in your life . . .
How is your life going to be different?
What’s the first thing you will notice after you wake up that tells you that things are different now?
WHEN YOU ACHIEVE YOUR MOST IMPORTANT GOAL …
Who would you call first to tell them about it?
What would you say?
To whom would you say, “Thanks for your help”?
To whom would you say, “I did it without you”?
TO BREAK A HABIT …
1) identify the moment you tend to act automatically,
2) don’t do it,
3) see what thoughts and feelings come up,
4) write them down,
5) discuss these with your therapist.
WRITE A LETTER TO A YOUNGER VERSION OF YOURSELF …
– What would you warn yourself about?
– What would you reassure yourself about?
– What would you praise yourself for?
The following is a partial list of issues that are close to my heart.
Emotionally-charged business, workplace, estate planning, and family decisions with financial and legal consequences
– individual and couples therapy, divorce coaching and divorce therapy for people facing serious marital difficulties, considering divorce or going through divorce
– emotionally-charged estate planning dilemmas, including decisions to set up special needs and generation-skipping trusts, sibling rivalry, child/stepparent rivalry, and trustee issues.
– emotionally-charged business, workplace, estate planning, and family decisions with financial and legal consequences
– work issues including career choice for young people, executive strategy in the workplace, leaving work at the office, putting work out of mind when working from home, deciding about major elective expenses, and opting out of maximum income career paths
Health psychotherapy, including mindfulness
– Many physical illnesses are caused or made worse by stress, for example, hypertension and other forms of heart disease and chronic pain.
– For many patients, medical science does not offer today a full, or even a partial cure. In addition to physical limitations, shortened lifespan, and pain, these patients suffer from a sense of betrayal by the medical profession. This sense of betrayal is the flip side of the 20th and 21st century entitlement the rest of us feel, when we go to a doctor and expect have our medical problems fixed.
– Yet other patients puzzle doctor with what doctors call lack of “compliance”. People don’t take the meds they need or take them using the wrong regimen that renders the medication useless. Helping patients embrace healthy lifestyle choices also frustrates traditional medicine. In the last thirty years, doctors lost the extra weight. Walk through a hospital and you will be hard pressed to find a single overweight doctor or nurse. But the medical profession despite its dogged commitment has not been able to win the hearts and minds of two-thirds of Americans who are overweight or obese. This is where psychotherapy can help.
Raising, in the environment of privilege, strong children who can delay gratification and make hard choices to advance their goals
Both poverty and privilege present challeges to parenting but these challenges are different. The fruits of hard work of the parent who earned them do not mean the same thing to the child as to the parent.
Divorce is usually preventable.
Couples therapy is a way for a couple to improve the relationship and prevent a divorce. At this point, preventing divorce is more of a science than an art, and scientists who study marriage can predict a divorce with 90% accuracy.
The Four Horsemen of Divorce Apocalypse are
If any these guests are living in your home with the two of you, they are making travel plans for Divorce to come to stay with you. But kick these four troublemakers out of your house, and there is no one to open the door and welcome Divorce into your home.
But if you are going through divorce, make sure it doesn’t scar you and your kids.
For spouses, divorce is a trauma that will expose old wounds. This gives you an opportunity to heal them and come out with post-traumatic growth, seeing the world with a wiser and a more open heart. Or you could further traumatize yourself and come out with more relationship trauma.
Divorce breaks the marriage but should not break the child’s family which includes both parents. Children don’t need their parents to stay married. Kids only need to talk to their friends to see that half of the marriages end in divorce. But kids need their divorced parents to remain friends, to sit not too far apart at the child’s birthday party and graduation, and to be able to walk the child together down the aisle when the time comes. Children don’t want to worry that parents will look tense because they are in the same room at these occasions or that the parents will make a scene.
For some parents, repairing the co-parenting relationship is a big effort. But it is worth it.
Health Psychology and Health Coaching
It’s not enough to say you love yourself. Where is the proof of love?
Big health improvements start with small positive changes in your lifestyle and habits. If you have tried to make these changes on your own, but they did not stick, don’t give up.
You have tried to do it alone. Now try it with some coaching. There is a reason why no Olympic champion ever trained withtout a coach. Doing it without help is the amature way.
MEDITATION WILL REDUCE BLOOD PRESSURE AND PROTECT THE HEART
Meditation provides many benefits for your heart which beats tirelessly and faithfully in your chest. Meditation will reduce harmful hormones, ease stress and anxiety and reduce heart rate and blood pressure.
BLOWING SMOKE CAN BLOW UP IN YOUR FACE
Quitting smoking is hard for everyone but especially for people who have been hooked since they were kids. Therapy can help break this and other habits.
PEOPLE LIVING CHRONIC PAIN CAN GET A LIFE-CHANGING BENEFIT FROM PSYCHOTHERAPY AND MEDITATION
– The experience of chronic pain can be very isolating because people around you don’t know how deal with someone who is to stand up to a problem of such magnitude. Without therapy, when deprived of external support, you might feel isolated, or worse yet, start to treat yourself with the same callousness you feel from others.
– A therapist can teach tried-and-true coping skills, including mindfulness approach to taking the sting out of chronic pain.
PSYCHOTHERAPY SHOULD BE THE FIRST CHOICE TO TREAT CHRONIC INSOMNIA
Insomnia is devastating to one’s wellbeing and is usually a response to stressful or traumatic life event. This is why the American College of Physicians (ACP) and he American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) say cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) works as well as medications for chronic insomnia and is less risky than drugs.Outside Source Article
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